Tuesday, December 13, 2011
Single Momista: S.E.X. and the Single Momista
Single Momista: S.E.X. and the Single Momista: Hello Everyone, Lately it's been difficult to write this blog--There has been so much going on with me and my ex and my expectations and d...
Dating and the Single Momista
Hello Everyone,
Lately it's been difficult to write this blog--There has been so much going on with me and my ex and my expectations and disappointments that I haven't even known where to begin or how to articulate it all. And then my obsession with online shopping for Christmas presents has been all consuming! I have been spending All my computer time reading reviews about toys and comparing prices. Whew, all the research I have done on toys for my son could be a blog in itself.
But today I'm ready to pursue a topic I have no personal knowledge on and that is S.E.X. and the Single Momista.
So ok, yes, it's been A Long Time since I've had intimate relations with anyone...My ex moved out of our bedroom a month after my son's first birthday. And then some point after that, when I knew I was pursuing a divorce, we didn't have sex for a year to claim sexual abandonment in court. (At the time New York was a fault state for divorce). Then I left my ex when my son was two and a half years old, and now he is nearly four. This is all a roundabout way to say it's been awhile, without telling you the exact number of years...
How does the Sinlge Momista even have intimate relations with anyone? I was just starting to figure out how to be a mom and still be sexy and have sex, when the having sex part of my marriage ended. Now I have so much on my plate with raising my son and earning money and staying sane. Add putting myself at the top of the list of people who should get some sleep and also have some fun with friends I already have. And my son will always come first so finding a man who can deal with being second might be a challenge in itself. And this is not just an issue for Single Momistas. All over the place we can read about the merits and importance of date night for married couples with kids.
So...should I join a dating website? I'm old school, and I don't mean that I'm Old (even if I do have to get reading glasses now) but that I'm used to meeting people and getting a vibe from them. I'm not used to scrolling through self promotion ads and images. I spend enuf (ha, ha see how hip I am) I mean Enough time on the computer already. I know how draining my online shopping for Christmas-presents-obsession has been and I'm sure online dating would be just as obsessive for me. I'm not willing to add pursuing a date to my computer time when I could be watching "Up All Night" on Hulu.
Anyone have any tips? Or know an amazing, single man in the New York area who likes kids? Who maybe has a dog?
XO Single Momista
Lately it's been difficult to write this blog--There has been so much going on with me and my ex and my expectations and disappointments that I haven't even known where to begin or how to articulate it all. And then my obsession with online shopping for Christmas presents has been all consuming! I have been spending All my computer time reading reviews about toys and comparing prices. Whew, all the research I have done on toys for my son could be a blog in itself.
But today I'm ready to pursue a topic I have no personal knowledge on and that is S.E.X. and the Single Momista.
So ok, yes, it's been A Long Time since I've had intimate relations with anyone...My ex moved out of our bedroom a month after my son's first birthday. And then some point after that, when I knew I was pursuing a divorce, we didn't have sex for a year to claim sexual abandonment in court. (At the time New York was a fault state for divorce). Then I left my ex when my son was two and a half years old, and now he is nearly four. This is all a roundabout way to say it's been awhile, without telling you the exact number of years...
How does the Sinlge Momista even have intimate relations with anyone? I was just starting to figure out how to be a mom and still be sexy and have sex, when the having sex part of my marriage ended. Now I have so much on my plate with raising my son and earning money and staying sane. Add putting myself at the top of the list of people who should get some sleep and also have some fun with friends I already have. And my son will always come first so finding a man who can deal with being second might be a challenge in itself. And this is not just an issue for Single Momistas. All over the place we can read about the merits and importance of date night for married couples with kids.
So...should I join a dating website? I'm old school, and I don't mean that I'm Old (even if I do have to get reading glasses now) but that I'm used to meeting people and getting a vibe from them. I'm not used to scrolling through self promotion ads and images. I spend enuf (ha, ha see how hip I am) I mean Enough time on the computer already. I know how draining my online shopping for Christmas-presents-obsession has been and I'm sure online dating would be just as obsessive for me. I'm not willing to add pursuing a date to my computer time when I could be watching "Up All Night" on Hulu.
XO Single Momista
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